The man was sitting in the back seat of the car that brought him, I watched closely their was no respiratory efforts, I went for the pulse, not palpable, no cardiac activity, pupils were dilated, fixed and unreactive to light.

Few weeks ago, I was called to see a patient, without delay I rushed down the stairs and headed to the hospital wards.

I watched foam rush through the mouth and nostrils. Obviously he is dead. Still panting from the unplanned exercise I did, I felt bad I couldn’t do anything for him.

Out of curiosity, I wanted to know how he got to that point. The wife, a young lady in her late 30s told me they were playing when suddenly he became distressed, struggling for air and she tried to calm him all to no avail then she raised alarm
for help.

I quickly asked if her husband was hypertensive and she admitted. I requested for his drugs, luckily they came with his drugs. I went through the drugs, and was able to identify some and it include: digoxin, Viagra, lisinopril.

In my little mind I concluded the young man in his late 40s “DIED IN ACTIVE SERVICE TO THE WIFE” from heart attack. My assumption may be right or wrong, but seeing those 2 drugs, I won’t be blamed for my assumption. Rest in peace to the dead.

Have you imagined why men die more? Have you ever noticed that there are more widows than widowers? Just check in your little village, then extend it to your community you will be surprised what you find.

I just want to pick one of the reasons I feel contributes to this. I will appeal that this is solely my opinion, it may be wrong or right.


Every responsible man wants to satisfy his family and wife in terms of providing for the basic needs and also in bed. But doing this at the expense of the man’s life is what I want to condemn.

It is a common experience this days that women openly talk about how bad their spouses are on bed, and most times the woman makes life difficult for the man by throwing abusive words at him.

It is also common to see a lot of products being advertised and marketed for enhancement of males sexual performance. A lot of women are responsible for their husband’s death because of their excessive demands for sexual satisfaction, and in the bid to satisfy the woman the man take drugs that endanger his health.

And I ask, is sexual satisfaction the basis of relationships or marriage? Some times the woman even asks for a bigger penis and my fellow man will be taking all sorts of drugs just to enlarge his penis.

This is just mocking God who created you. At the end he dies SATISFYING A WOMAN. Why not ask the woman to reduce her vagina to size you instead?

A man’s sexual performance depends on a lot of factors, such as stress, diet, medical conditions such as diabetes, drugs such as antihypertensives, relationship problems, etc.

How do you expect a man who you nag, starve, embarrass on the streets, who you refuse to support financially, who sleeps for less than 3 hours in a day to satisfy you sexually?

Most times women threaten to go outside for the so called satisfaction and you will be struggling to take higher doses of the drugs to satisfy her.

That woman you want to satisfy at the expense of you own life started having sex before the age of 12 years until the age of 25yrs or more when she got married.

Before this time she has experimented widely with men of different energy capacities. Unfortunately, she married a man with lower capacity, but she is already addicted to sex. So how can you measure up?

Don’t die in active service. Don’t die in the attempt to satisfy a woman sexually. Just do what you can do and leave the rest to God. If you die satisfying a woman definitely after your burial men will come and continue from where you stopped.

Our dear wives and girlfriends, we are begging you to help us live longer. Help us financially, encourage us to do more not nagging, feed us well, give us peace of mind, allow us sleep at night, understand our health challenges, understand the side effects of drugs we are on, protect our weaknesses, and pray for us.

Then we will live longer for you and your children. Our performances then will improve. Do not harm yourself in any way trying to prove you are a man. 7-13 mins is OK, if you can go higher better but do not take drugs that will damage your heart.

Many have died trying to satisfy women. THEY DIED IN ACTIVE SERVICE.